Support for the Emotional Pain of Infertility

If you’re in the middle of trying to get pregnant- and you’ve been trying for months or years with no clear answers- you already know how exhausting and painful it can be. Surviving the hope and heartbreak in the two week wait, getting through the constant invasive tests and procedures, avoiding the baby clothes section for fear of crying in public, and the jealousy and anger that comes with seeing yet another pregnancy announcement. Constantly asking yourself- why them and not us?

Infertility isn’t just a medical issue- it’s an emotional and psychological experience that can impact your whole life.

It’s okay if you’re not okay.

Maybe you're feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, defeated, or numb. Maybe you’re starting to feel like your body is broken- or like you're losing yourself in the process. You might be struggling with decisions around treatment, feeling out of sync with your partner, or trying to explain the unexplainable to friends and family who just don’t get it. It’s all so exhausting.

You're not being dramatic. You're carrying something incredibly heavy- and it makes sense that it's affecting your mental health, your relationships, and your sense of self.

You don’t have to go through this alone.

Infertility can bring up so much: anxiety, grief, shame, anger, isolation, resentment, trauma. Therapy can give you a space to name all of it, to feel supported without being rushed or “fixed.” It’s a space where you don’t have to stay positive. You can just be real.

In counseling, we might explore:

• The impact infertility is having on your emotional health, relationships, and daily functioning

• Navigating the rollercoaster of emotions with each cycle

• Coping with decisions about IVF, IUI, clomid, egg/sperm donation, surrogacy, or stopping treatment

• The grief of what you imagined building your family would be- and what hasn’t happened

• Complex emotions around relationships, sex, identity, or others’ children

• What it means to move forward, with or without a baby

How I support clients facing infertility:

My approach is gentle, personalized, and trauma-informed. I draw from a range of therapies based on what works best for you:

• EMDR to help process emotionally painful or traumatic experiences- like failed IVF cycles, medical procedures, or past pregnancy losses

• IFS (Internal Family Systems) to work with the parts of you that feel hopeless, angry, exhausted, or ashamed- and offer those parts compassion and relief

• ACT and CBT to build tools for managing distress, regulating anxiety, and holding space for all the unknowns

• Narrative therapy to explore how infertility has shaped your story- and how to stay connected to your identity, values, and voice in the middle of it

This is not about rushing to acceptance. It’s about finding your way through with support, agency, and care.

Why I do this work:

I’m a therapist who specializes in reproductive grief and trauma- and I’m also someone who knows firsthand how deeply infertility can affect your life. I’ve been through the endless testing, the waiting, the dashed hopes, the “just relax” comments. I understand the invisible grief and the identity-shifting weight of this experience.

You don’t have to explain what it means to want something so deeply and not know if it’s ever going to happen. I get it. And I’m here for you.

Therapy that meets you where you are

Whether you're just starting fertility treatment, feeling burned out from years of trying, or navigating the possibility of a life without children, you deserve support that honors the complexity of what you're facing.

I offer virtual counseling throughout Missouri, so you can get help from the privacy and comfort of home. If you're curious about working together, you’re welcome to reach out for a free 15-minute consultation. No pressure- just a chance to see if it feels like a good fit.

You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.